Comments are by far the hardest thing about blogging. There are times when I can’t seem to come up with anything I feel moved to say, other times when I’m just ablaze with thoughts and they’re so jumbled, so frantically in need of being exorcised that I can’t seem to stop writing. Then there are other times, when I’ve got plenty of thoughts but they’re incomplete, they haven’t coalesced into something I can clearly communicate. I try to write them out and they just won’t come out right. Not to mention the times when it just feels forced. I try and it comes out alright but what I’m saying is hollow, devoid of much underlying feeling. Dead skin that I need to shed if I want to get to the new stuff underneath, the realization or the idea that’s filled with vitality.
All of that, and I still think comments are the hardest thing for me to deal with.
This isn’t a complaint either because I’m always glad when someone connected with a post enough to spend time writing out the thoughts it inspired, whether they’re oppisitional or not. And truth be told I haven’t had to deal with a lot of opposition. So far I’ve had virtually zero trolls and, of the few dissenting opinions I’ve encountered, everyone has been civil. That’s bound to change because I’m pro-abortion, pro-American (as in I don’t give a flying fuck what political party you belong to), pro-violence, and amoral in the extreme. I’m bound to touch on some of those, sooner or later. But even lacking the headache that might arise from some of that, comments still slow me down a lot. See, I try to respond to every comment.
It’s kind of rude not to imo, unless you’ve got hundreds of comments every day, and if I get to that point you can bet your ass I’m just going to say, “screw it, I’m not responding to every single one of them anymore.” I’m nowhere near that tipping point right now though. I just feel compelled to have all (or most) of the comments taken care of before I start posting again. And I know some people thrive on them, it’s a huge part of why they blog, but me? Not so much. I find it absolutely exhausting to go through one after another, and it’s nothing against the commenters either. The same thing applies face-to-face. Social interaction just flat out exhausts me, and I need breaks sometimes. So when I get ten or twenty comments in the space of a day…
It just kicks my ass.
That being in spite of my appreciation for the attention, the time you took, the interest you’ve shown. I like the end result when I work all day at something in my job and see how much better everything looks when I’m finished, but there’s also a good chance I’ll be worn out by it too.
(Response to The Daily Opinion – Blogging)