It’s funny how much your “likes” or followers can fluctuate on social media, especially if you say things some people disagree with. If you have a different opinion, all the sudden you’re not worth following. That’s fine too, I just can’t help but smile when the number of Facebook likes dips below 350 because I support Trump, or because I have a problem with illegal immigration, or because I believe in the value and importance of 2nd Amendment rights. It kind of goes to the point I was making in the posts I wrote here about making yourself known (1 & 2).
There’s a cost for showing where you stand.
The irony, especially in this case, is that my overall reach is off the charts right now. As I write this post, my “post reach” stats are at 5,410, an all time high for me. And yet I’ve lost a few fans.
So you see, there’s a trade off. And in my opinion it’s well worth it, because the net effect is growth, an expanded reach, and more meaningful engagement with people.
It works the exact same way in the less measurable but much more important context of life offline. You can hide what you believe so you don’t offend people, or worse, you can pretend to share someone else’s views even though you disagree, but then the connections you have with people are going to be fake. Untrue. Above all, they’re going to be unsatisfying, and they’re going to work at cross purposes to whatever dreams, goals, or ambitions you might have.
The hard part I guess is in coming to terms with the reality that you’re going to offend someone, sooner or later. If you’re not a narrow-minded bigot or anything though, I say fuck ’em.
If you have a reason for your outlook, if you know what you’re talking about, and they’re just mad because you don’t agree then they can take their opposing views elsewhere. You’d be surprised at how many people you don’t need to get by, let alone succeed in life. You have to learn to be okay with that though. If you let it bother you, you’re going to run into problems. It’s going to undermine the things in your life that actually matter, and frankly, non-fans aren’t worth that.
Better to be rid of them.
(Update… As of right now, right before publishing this post… I’m down to 348 on my Facebook page, and yet the reach has climbed to 7,024. And it’s probably going to keep climbing. Interesting, isn’t it?)